Thursday, October 05, 2006

To my Muslim Sister, with Love

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This is truly a beautiful article to read written by a Christian

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To My Muslim Sister.

Between the Israeli assault on Lebanon and the Zionist "war on
terror," the Muslim world is now center stage in every American
home. I see the carnage, death and destruction that have befallen
Lebanon, but I also see something else: I see you. I can't help but
notice that almost every woman I see is carrying a baby or has
children around her. I see that though they are dressed modestly,
their beauty still shines through. But it's not just outer beauty
that I notice. I also notice that I feel something strange inside me:
I feel envy. I feel terrible for the horrible experiences and
war crimes that the Lebanese people have suffered, being targeted by
our common enemy. But I can't help but admire your strength, your
beauty, your modesty, and most of all, your happiness. Yes, it's
strange, but it occurred to me that even under constant bombardment,
you still seemed happier than we are, because you were still living
the natural lives of women. The way women have always lived since
the beginning of time. It used to be that way in the West until the
1960s, when we were bombarded by the same enemy. Only we were not
bombarded with actual munitions, but with subtle trickery and moral

They bombarded us Americans from Hollywood, instead of from fighter
jets or with our own American-made tanks. They would like to bomb
you in this way too, after they've finished bombing the
infrastructure of your countries. I do not want this to happen to
you. You will feel degraded, just like we do. You can avoid this
kind of bombing if you will kindly listen to those of us who have
already suffered serious casualties from their evil influence.
Because everything you see coming out of Hollywood is a pack of
lies, a distortion of reality, smoke and mirrors. They present
casual sex as harmless recreation because they aim to destroy the
moral fabric of the societies into which they beam their poisonous
programming. I beg you not to drink their poison. There is no
antidote for it once you have consumed it. You may recover
partially, but you will never be the same. Better to avoid the
poison altogether than to try to heal from the damage it causes.

They will try to tempt you with their titillating movies and music
videos, falsely portraying us American women as happy and satisfied,
proud of dressing like prostitutes, and content without families.
Most of us are not happy, trust me. Millions of us are on
anti-depressant medication, hate our jobs, and cry at night over the
men who told us they loved us, then greedily used us and walked
away. They would like to destroy your families and convince you to
have fewer children. They do this by presenting marriage as a form
of slavery, motherhood as a curse, and being modest and pure as
old-fashioned. They want you to cheapen yourself and lose your
faith. They are like the Serpent tempting Eve with the apple. Don't

I see you as precious gems, pure gold, or the "pearl of great value"
spoken of in the Bible (Matthew 13: 45). All women are pearls of
great value, but some of us have been deceived into doubting the
value of our purity. Jesus said: "Give not that which is holy unto
the dogs, neither cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample
them under their feet, and turn again and rend you" (Matthew 7: 6).
Our pearls are priceless, but they convince us that they're cheap.
But trust me; there is no substitute for being able to look in the
mirror and seeing purity, innocence and self-respect staring back at
you. The fashions coming out of the Western sewer are designed to
make you believe that your most valuable asset is your sexuality.
But your beautiful dresses and veils are actually sexier than any
Western fashion, because they cloak you in mystery and show
self-respect and confidence. A woman's sexuality should be guarded
from unworthy eyes, since it should be your gift to the man who
loves and respects you enough to marry you. And since your men are
still manly warriors, they deserve no less than your best. Our men
don't even want purity anymore. They don't recognize the pearl of
great value, opting for the flashy rhinestone instead. Only to leave
her too.

Your most valuable assets are your inner beauty, your innocence, and
everything that makes you who you are. But I notice that some Muslim
women push the limit and try to be as Western as possible, even
while wearing a veil (with some of their hair showing). Why imitate
women who already regret, or will soon regret, their lost virtue?
There is no compensation for that loss. You are flawless diamonds.
Don't let them trick you into becoming rhinestones. Because
everything you see in the fashion magazines and on Western
television is a lie. It is Satan's trap. It is fool's gold.

I'll let you in on a little secret, just in case you're curious:
pre-marital sex is not even that great. We gave our bodies to the
men we were in love with, believing that that was the way to make
them love us and want to marry us. Just as we had seen on television
growing up. But without the security of marriage and the sure
knowledge that he will always stay with us, it's not even enjoyable!
That's the irony. It was just a waste. It leaves you in tears.
Speaking as one woman to another, I believe that you understand that
already. Because only a woman can truly understand what's in another
woman's heart. We really are all alike. Our race, religion or
nationalities do not matter. A woman's heart is the same everywhere.
We love. That's what we do best. We nurture our families and give
comfort and strength to the men we love. But we American women have
been fooled into believing that we are happiest having careers, our
own homes in which to live alone, and freedom to give our love away
to whomever we choose. That is not freedom. And that is not love.
Only in the safe haven of marriage can a woman's body and heart be
safe to love. Don't settle for anything less. It's not worth it. You
won't even like it and you'll like yourself even less afterwards.
Then he'll leave you.

Sin never pays. It always cheats you. Even though I have reclaimed
my honor, there's still no substitute for having never been
dishonored in the first place. We Western women have been
brainwashed into thinking that you Muslim women are oppressed. But
truly, we are the ones who are oppressed; slaves to fashions that
degrade us, obsessed with our weight, begging for love from men who
do not want to grow up. Deep down inside, we know that we have been
cheated. We secretly admire and envy you, although some of us will
not admit it. Please do not look down on us or think that we like
things the way they are. It's not our fault. Most of us did not have
fathers to protect us when we were young because our families have
been destroyed. You know who is behind this plot. Don't be fooled,
my sisters. Don't let them get you too. Stay innocent and pure. We
Christian women need to see what life is really supposed to be like
for women. We need you to set the example for us, because we are
lost. Hold onto your purity.

Remember: you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube. So guard
your "toothpaste" carefully!

I hope you receive this advice in the spirit in which it is
intended: the spirit of friendship, respect, and admiration. From
your Christian sister – with love.

© 2006+ Joanna Francis


  1. Bint Muhammad6:15 AM

    Amazing and beautiful advise.
    May this become a means to 'wake' us all up to the reality of life


  2. Sheikhmango1:44 PM

    As beautiful and touching as this is, its also so true.

  3. Anonymous10:09 AM

    wow, someone emailed this to me. it is amazingly beautiful, i wish all the women in the world could read it. i don't even have the words to express the transcending message of truth, dignity, and flawlessness this message holds. please do find a way to expand the boundaries onto which this poetic piece can be read.

  4. Anonymous7:51 PM

    Mash'allah, that was very beautiful! thank you for sharing it with us.