Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Marriage = Marring??

Quite randomly I came across an interesting typo:

Did you know the only difference between the word "marrying" and "marring" is a single letter...Hmm...wonder "y"? Leave a comment and let the discussion begin :)

For those who may not know:

tr.v. marred, mar·ring, mars
  1. To inflict damage, especially disfiguring damage, on.
  2. To impair the soundness, perfection, or integrity of; spoil.
ps - This is not meant to be a serious, philosophical discussion- but let's see what you can come up with (hopefully something positive, insha'Allah...a hint: the Nafs)


  1. shamira I have no idea....just tell

  2. touhid7:54 AM

    salaamu 'alykum,

    i believe by fulfilling the sunna of Marriage (by marrying), you are marring the nafs al-ammara?

  3. Subhanallah.
    I wouldn't be surprised if this is not a coincidence. Unfortunately, for many people marriage can equal marring - not necessarily a physical marring, but an emotional one. I think this shows the possible danger of not properly caring for spouses or the marriage itself. Through marriage people come into a position/relationship where they have this powerful ability, knowingly or unknowingly, to inflict either goodness or harm on others.
    Having worked at a matrimonial law office for a few years, marrying=marring rings a loud bell. Most of the time, it is the wife who suffers this marring at the hands of her husband. There are also times when husbands suffer by the their wives. In either situation, there appears to be an extreme lack of self control, neglect, and diminishing moral character on the part of one or both parties. It is the saddest thing to see two people who share or have shared the most beautiful blessings of life abuse each other in the most ugliest ways. It’s really a blessing to not have your marriage equal a marring. I think this shows the importance of continuously working on a marriage and the importance of treating spouses with respect.
    Thanks for bringing this up.

  4. Jazakillah khayr, Sana, for those insightful words. May Allah Ta'ala grant all of us prosperous marriages for this life and the next, and may He put love, respect, harmony and dignity back into abusive, dysfunctional marriages. Tawfiq, insha'Allah. Was'salaam