We have a winner for the "marriage = marring?!" post! The winner, , wrote:
i believe by fulfilling the sunna of Marriage (by marrying), you are marring the nafs al-ammara?Alhamdulillah, that is what I was intending as well--that by getting married you learn how to subdue your ego which incites to evil. This is further supported by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani who writes:
It is a strong confirmed sunna to get married. The hadiths about the virtues of marriage, motherhood, fatherhood, raising children, and married life are in the hundreds. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, "Marriage is from my sunna. Whoever turns away from my sunna is not of my people."
Marriage is a wonderful gift from Allah. It is also one of the best ways to subdue your self (nafs) and learn the meaning of sacrifice, sharing, and love. Turning away sinfully, however, would be if one disliked the concept of marriage, or did not marry while needing to get married. Otherwise, one is missing out on one of the keys to worldly and next-worldly joy and reward.
May Allah Ta'ala grant all of our brothers and sisters amazing spouses/partners in our lifelong journey to Him, and grant us all abundant tawfiq to strive against our nafs, our base desires, and be able to reach Him in the best of states, in this life and the next. Amin.
And Allah Ta'ala knows best.